HEALING YOUR KINTSUKUROI HEART; Part 7 Seeing Trough the Eyes of Self; Let the Self-Retreat Begin...

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POST 5 – SEEING THROUGH THE EYES OF SELF.  Let the Self-Retreat Begin
 
Rule 4 Turn Off The Noise And Immerse Yourself In Solitude.
 
What is the point of spending large amounts of time in solitude throughout this process?  So you can calm yourself, focus on what you’re doing - and remain focused - without outside influences changing your mood or disrupting your thought process.  Have you ever been in a perfectly good mood when something upsetting comes on the news or someone says something rude or unkind or a song comes on the radio that stirs an unpleasant or sad memory?  It can shift how you feel or take you out of yourself.  We’re trying to avoid that.  You will be working hard to move into a specific mindset and stay there without the outside word putting in its two cents worth.  You will be in complete control of your environment and the messages that are getting through to you.
 
So how do we do that?  With quiet and solitude.

• Turn off the TV and the radio and keep it off.
  1. Instead, you will pick and choose uplifting, inspirational dvds, books, audio books, movies, etc. without any commercial interruptions or unwanted noise or messages.
• Stay away from toxic relationships. 
• Stay away from social media.  I mean it.  Turn off all your notifications.
• Use the automated response on email, text, phone etc.  You can word it however you would like but may I suggest the honest approach.  Here’s an example.

 
Dear friends,
 
I have chosen to embark on a long-term journey of self-awareness and self-improvement.  During this deeply introspective time of self-retreat, as with any retreat, I will not be taking any phone calls, emails, texts or visitors. Please know that I am healthy and well and I am so excited to begin this wonderful journey of becoming the very best version of myself. 
 
If you do need to reach me in the case of a true emergency, please email me with “911” in the subject line but please be aware that I have turned off all my notifications and will be checking my e-mail infrequently if at all. Otherwise, I thank you in advance for your understanding and support. 
 
Please be well.
 
Amie
 
Of course there are some people who you will want to reach out to and give advanced notice.
 
As far as socializing, I strongly suggest that you choose only one or two of your very closest, most positive and supportive friends.  The ones you can always count for an encouraging word and a pat on the back.  With these people, I still recommend that you see them infrequently and when you do get together it’s time spent doing something healthy, like going for a walk or sharing a healthful meal or cup of tea.  Talk about your journeys, goals and progress.  It will be even better if this person is on a similar path.  You can cheer each other on!
 
Clean your mirror and keep it clean.  How can you truly see yourself and improve your self image if you are looking at yourself through a film?